James Sexton is one of the world’s most famous divorce lawyers, and in this conversation he explains what divorce, cheating, marriage and prenups really look like behind closed doors. He speaks openly about why marriages fail, why every couple already has a prenup, and why most people wait too long to understand what they are really signing up for.
James also shares what it means to be a high-conflict divorce attorney, why he calls himself “a weapon in court”, and how he protects clients through some of the most painful moments of their lives. He reflects on infidelity, custody battles, domestic abuse cases, and the brutal psychology of what really happens when love turns into war.
But this conversation is also about love. James explains why marriage should be harder to get into and easier to leave, why disconnection starts long before divorce, and why the real work of a relationship is choosing each other again and again.
00:00 Intro 02:03 The World’s Most Famous Divorce Lawyer 03:14 “I Hope Your Marriage Ends in Death” 06:30 Should I Get A Prenup? 10:54 The Patriarchal History of Marriage 14:42 James’ Definition of Divorce 22:18 James Opens Up About His Own Divorce 24:38 Representing Clients Who’ve Done Terrible Things 27:25 How to Know If a Couple Should Divorce 33:31 Shopify AD 34:42 How and When to Start the Divorce Conversation 39:45 When Should You Speak to a Divorce Lawyer? 44:22 Three Things to Consider Before Getting Married 51:43 James’ Most Memorable Case 55:39 The Main Reason for Divorce 57:16 Likelihood of Marrying After Divorce 01:03:47 Paul and James on Love and Relationships 01:14:41 Why Checking In With Your Partner Matters 01:20:16 Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce 01:37:48 Most Memorable Conversation 01:45:47 Paul’s Takeaways
